Welcome. We’re Hannah and Kelty, hosts of a podcast and video series that empowers parents to transcend their parenting struggles with awareness, grace and purpose. We search for meaning as mothers by engaging with the most difficult aspects of parenting — basically, all the things that make us want to drink wine and hide under the covers.
Upbringing represents our journey to get more comfortable amidst our most uncomfortable experiences, inspired by the belief that there is where real growth lies. Explore a handful of our core beliefs below and visit our Empowerments to learn more about what guides us on this parenting / podcasting adventure.
• We’re not done yet. Let’s acknowledge that we have as much growing up to do as our kids. When we see parenting as an inside job, we grant ourselves permission to show up and grow up.
• The hard stuff is the good stuff. Let’s get crazy and choose to believe that our kids’ tough emotions and behaviors have inherent value. Engaging mindfully elevates the situation, their skills, and our bond.
• Every parent is an activist. Let’s think of every interaction with our kids as a way to build their brains and hearts. When they learn respect, connection and trust in our homes they can move through the world in kind.
• It’s all connected. Let’s look at the many facets of our lives as interconnected, each able to inform and strengthen the other. We can feel more integrated when we see our role as parents connected to our role as people.
• The dream is alignment, not perfection. Let’s work to embrace how things feel more than how things look. Connecting to our inner voice and core values allows us to act with intention as we build our own personal parenting philosophy.
• We’re better together. Let’s redefine parenthood as a collective movement rather than a solitary practice-- an opportunity to learn from, support and inspire one another on this insane adventure!
Frequently Asked Questions
HOW DID UPBRINGING COME ABOUT?
Motherhood was everything we hoped for and nothing we expected. Though we had ‘winged’ just about every new adventure in our lives before beginning families, we quickly realized that when it came to parenting, instinct alone gave us jack shit in terms of navigating daily ups and downs with confidence and success. At times we found ourselves questioning our judgement, wanting to strangle our husbands, and unsure where to focus our energy and attention. It was the wild west. The infinite opinions on the web and in books were often overwhelming, and though we had strong support from friends and family we sometimes felt adrift and lacking. We needed a program.
Luckily, a friend shared the RIE philosophy (Resources for Infant Educarers) and a new world of emotional and practical support opened up to us. We felt crazy relief to discover a framework of related philosophies that felt authentic to us, not to mention strategies that pushed us to examine our intuition, upbringing and cultural beliefs. It became clear that we were on a journey of growth alongside our kids; as we strove to become our best selves, we also began to let go of the expectation to be and do everything perfectly. We were set free!
The idea of creating a podcast to share our conversations was an easy one. All of us struggle to find time to read a book, get on the phone with a friend, browse a website or attend a class. We love podcasts because we can listen when driving, doing dishes, pushing a stroller or sitting in the dark praying our kid will fall asleep. Pods have kept us company and inspired us to grow through hard times -- a lifeline to other voices that could put words to the feelings and experiences we were having.
Upbringing is our attempt to connect with a tribe of parents who value respectful, evidence-based resources and are looking for ways to craft their unique family philosophy. Parents with the courage to dig into the hard stuff, the big picture stuff, the nitty gritty. Parents who can laugh and admit that they (like us) are works in progress, raising themselves alongside their tiny humans.
WHERE DO YOU LIVE AND HOW OLD ARE YOUR KIDS?
We live with our families on a 24-acre farm just outside Portland, Oregon. We each have a daughter and a son (ages 2, 3, 4 and 5!).
WHAT THE HECK IS A PODCAST AND HOW DO I LISTEN?
The Upbringing podcast is basically our own personal radio show that you can tune into on demand. All you need is a computer or phone to stream our episodes. Some prefer to listen through our website PODCAST PAGE and others prefer to use their phone to subscribe to our station through an application like Apple’s Itunes Podcasts. Just open your favorite listening app and search for “Upbringing”, then click “subscribe”. If you find any of this difficult, enlist the help of a friendly younger person or google search. Visit our RESOURCES PAGE to browse some of the podcasts we listen to!
ARE YOU EXPERTS OR WHAT?
Nope -- just mamas on a journey. Our aim is to improve awareness, intention and connection with ourselves and families; we view Upbringing as the public part of that personal adventure. We’ll always be suckers for books and trainings, but our biggest teachers are our kids, who constantly invite us to stay open, grateful and evolving amidst it all. If any of what we talk about resonates with you, then fantastic. And if not, we wish you the best!
WHAT RELEVANT CERTIFICATIONS DO YOU POSSESS?
Certified Positive Discipline Parent Educator (CPDPE) through the Positive Discipline Association
Certified Simplicity Parenting Family Life Coach (SPFLC)
Completed RIE Foundations Theory & Observation Intensive Training at Los Angeles’s RIE center under the mentorship of RuthAnne Hammond
WHAT WAS YOUR LINE OF WORK BEFORE YOU BEGAN UPBRINGING?
After college Hannah taught Spanish + English and eventually worked in a research lab at OHSU, coordinating and conducting neuropsych testing and FMRIs. Kelty worked in web design and branding, eventually beginning her own photography business. Throughout early motherhood and for several years before we worked in tandem as The Weaver House, shooting portraits, spaces, events and products as well as designing websites and print materials for artists and makers. Though parenting and Upbringing have become our main focus, we love diving back in together on passion projects for friends and artists in our circle. Our cameras have become a magical way to connect with other parents and experiences outside our own. We know we’ll be road tripping for fun photo adventures until we’re old and gray.
CAN I HIRE YOU FOR PRIVATE COACHING?
We are currently accepting a small group of coaching clients. Please reach out for details! And in the meantime, we would love you to contribute content to our Dear Upbringing Happy Hour videos -- submit your latest WTF moments or chronic parenting struggles through our CONTACT page, email or Instagram DM. We look forward to connecting, commiserating and reflecting!
WHAT DO YOUR HUSBANDS DO?
Hannah’s husband Alex is a filmmaker and motion graphics artist. He creates videos for small businesses as Quimby and just launched Elements of Film, where he sells his film kits to aspiring filmmakers. Alex is also the techie renaissance man who makes us sound legit. He edits and produces our podcast, composes our theme music and ditties, shoots and animates video content and keeps us chuckling through it all. Kelty’s husband Justin runs Working Theory Farm, an organic meat and vegetable farm - also known as our home. Other than keeping us full of smoothies and salads, he sells to local co-ops, grocery stores, upscale Portland restaurants and has just partnered with The Food Bank to grow for them next season.
WHO DOES YOUR ART?
Amber Okamura is our visual interpreter and magic-maker -- the colorful thread that weaves throughout Upbringing. An artist, mother, and kindred spirit, Amber illustrates all of our podcast and website visuals and will continue designing for Upbringing’s videos and print goods. When she isn’t creating beautiful art she can be found spending time with her daughter Juniper, sketching in her notebook or as a Lead Project Manager for Art Content in the Bay Area.
DO YOU HOST WORKSHOPS ONLINE OR IN PERSON?
We love that idea and definitely see workshops on our horizon. Something homey and full of connection and collaboration sounds amazing. Let us know if you are game in joining (or hosting) through our CONTACT page, email or Instagram DM and we will keep you posted. Sign up for our newsletter to stay in the loop!
CAN I NOMINATE AN INTERVIEWEE OR SHARE A FAVE BOOK TITLE WITH YOU GALS?
YES! We would be so grateful for your insights, referrals and connections. Get in touch to let us know what or who has been lighting your hair on fire lately.
WHAT ARE SOME OF YOUR GO-TO PARENTING BOOKS?
Visit our RESOURCES page or see a handful below:
Unconditional Parenting - Alfie Kohn
Simplicity Parenting - Kim John Payne
The Whole Brain Child - Daniel Siegel + Tina Payne Bryson
No Drama Discipline - Daniel Siegel + Tina Payne Bryson
Self-Reg - Stuart Shanker
Elevating Childcare - Janet Lansbury
No Bad Kids - Janet Lansbury
It’s Not About The Broccoli - Dina Rose
Baby Knows Best - Deborah Carlisle Solomon
Peaceful Parents, Happy Kids - Laura Markham
The Awakened Family - Shefali Tsabary
How To Talk So Little Kids Will Listen - Joanna Faber + Julie King
The No-Cry Sleep Solution - Elizabeth Pantley
How to Raise an Adult - Julie Lytcott-Haims
CONTACT US WITH YOUR BURNING QUESTIONS AND CONSTRUCTIVE FEEDBACK!